So, I’m back. I know I disappeared for a bit but now I promise since I skipped a few months, many opinions have risen to the surface.
What has been on my mind recently is being single. Well, not me being single, but singles in general. Society swallows singles up and leads them to a never ending circle of tips; tips on how to date, tips on finding the one and only, tips on being open towards love.
I sit here with my group of single girlfriends and I try to give them peace of mind. It is 2008 and what seemed to be their year of love is almost over.
“There is only five months left till 2009, I’ll be 23 in 2009!”
“I want to at least be with a man for 5 years before I marry him, if I don’t find him now, I won’t be married till after I’m 30!”
In hysterics one of my girlfriends asks, “All I want to know is what the hell happened to a night of sushi and a romantic comedy?” (A pretty good question, since most of them get that completely funny and attractive guy’s number at the bar, then gets a call the next day asking them to go back to ‘his place’.) “They just skip the whole getting to know each other part!”
And the saddest part is the fact that when a decent guy actually asks them to go out on a date, they automatically deem something wrong with him. Or my favorite, we immediately call him a keeper and then a week later find out he is still sleeping with his ex.
This gets me to my point. Is it really about finding your one and only? Or is it about waiting till that one and only finds you?
Some continue to try. They read the tips online, watch the talk shows about relationships, continue to keep their hopes up, hoping that the night at the bar, that stroll in the park, or that trip to the grocery store will bring upon that person of their dreams. Hoping that today is the day they will fall in love.
“Just keep your heart open” is all they hear, but is it getting them anywhere?
